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Is AFF a secret from everyone who knows you?  

DiscreteSlowRide 53M
152 posts
7/19/2021 1:31 pm
Is AFF a secret from everyone who knows you?

Is it common knowledge among your friends and family that you are on Swingers Space?

OR

Is this your dirty little secret?

Regardless if you have an open marriage, open relationship, if you swing, swamp, cross dress, dress up, dress down, strip ..whatever your purpose is here. Considering this is the one place that all fetishes, all alt lifestyle pleasures are accepted and welcome. How open are you about your presence here?
Don't Tell Anyone I am on AFF
I am fairly open about it
I attempt to maintain discretion
Why? What have you heard about me???
No one would ever imagine I am on here.
I Don't Care Who Knows


lust4life59 65F  
2552 posts
7/19/2021 1:45 pm

I don't shout it from the rooftops, but then again I don't attempt to hide it either.

But then again, I'm on a site much much more sexually explicit than this one.


Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
7/19/2021 2:39 pm

I haven't told anybody.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:11 pm:
The less people know, the less we have to explain.

justskin1 72M
13175 posts
7/19/2021 2:54 pm

Some people know and I am fairly picky who I let know. Then again, if someone finds out I wouldn't get upset. Besides, I have noted in my blog that if you recognize me from on here it is okay to say Hi justskin.

If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin."

I always behave. Preferably not well.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:02 pm:
There you go! You are owning your actions.

flannel_light 61F
4586 posts
7/19/2021 2:58 pm

It's my little dirty secret.

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:01 pm:
I'm with you! This is my dirty secret for sure!

countryqueen1 74F

7/19/2021 3:08 pm

Totally my secret, lol. No one who knows me knows this side of me


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:00 pm:
Same with me. No one would ever imagine I am on a site like this nor would they ever connect me with the experiences I wrote about.

shhhh

BiSussi 63F
1405 posts
7/19/2021 4:31 pm

Neither have I, couldn't afford it, office or family
Only by boyfriends and special girl friends know


I love pussies and adore nice dicks


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:10 pm:
I hear you there! Business wise could be a problem for me and family...ugh...don't get me started on family.

nekkedcouple 63M/57F  
85 posts
7/19/2021 5:48 pm

We don't talk about it to our friends and family but we have been approached a few times by people who asked us "Excuse me, Are you nekkedcouple? from Swingers Space?"


Wat2dowithme 81F
43 posts
7/19/2021 6:13 pm

It absolutely blows my mind how people try to hide. They claim it's due to work or privacy? If you're freaky and you want to get laid own up to it there's no reason for anybody be acting like a little BITCH about it. And seriously if someone you know sees your profile how would they explain that to anybody? Without looking like a dirty pervert themselves. Man up everybody 🤪


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/20/2021 9:39 am:
For better or for worse people will judge one's choices that fall outside of the norm.

Some of the people who have profiles here are some kind of public figure be it in their community such as teachers, in local government or business owners and so on.
As ideal as it is to say to the world... This is what I am into accept it or F off!!... Its simply not realistic.

Discretion is critical for such people. Not everyone is hiding from spouses and sig others.

Deepnwide76 47M

7/20/2021 12:11 am

I want to tell people but they wouldn't get it maybe I get more dick who knows but it being my secret is such a turn on


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 7:31 am:
Fair point. A lot of people who would never come here would not get it. I hear you. It's best to keep it to yourself.

Way2sassy412 51F

7/20/2021 12:49 am

Only one friend knows and he’s on here also. Most would claim I’m too sweet. My sexuality has floored more than one person. I hide it well I guess


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
7/20/2021 1:35 am

    Quoting  :

lol....so true....the way they treat us ~


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
7/20/2021 1:40 am

I have strict boundaries between personal and professional....very strict. Once i retire, i may consider being more open here. Then i think about anything we post here is property of the site to do as they may and considering they have been hacked more times than once. Its still a slippery slope....and makes no sense in having pics out there randomly. We shall see ~~

I voted...." no one would ever imagine "


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 7:33 am:
I'm with you. It is best to keep boundaries between personal and business.

basehorbicpl4fun 52M/42F

7/20/2021 6:19 am

i dont hide it at all. I love the fact that it is out there and everyone around me knows about it. It usually leads to a really good time with many more friends i find. Of course there are always exceptions but i say have fun while you can.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 11:48 am:
That has to be such a free feeling when being as open as you are opens the doors to broaden your reach in the swing community or within the groups who enjoy playing together.

rdy2try4 58F  
3330 posts
7/20/2021 7:21 am

I have been here for many years. I have always had a face photo. I do not hide that I am here at all! Why should I? I am not ashamed of myself nor what I am doing. I have said repeatedly I wish people did not have such a vision or view of this site that they need to hide they are here. I have seen men mostly say they would never marry anyone from here. WHY?? They are here too! Why is it that if you are on here you somehow are not worthy of being married? Why would you be ashamed of wanting to find someone that you can connect with enough to have sex with them? I wish with all my heart that people did not see this as a place that is dirty or you think the people on it are dirty and have a lack of respect for them be they male or female. It is an adult social network. Stop viewing it as an online whorehouse. I don't know anyone that truly wants to marry someone that won't have sex so why view looking for a partner, boy/girl friend, husband/wife, or just an encounter with someone you sexually are compatible with. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

I agree wholeheartedly to the ones that have posted that if someone sees you here THEY are here! You can't throw stones at someone that is doing what you yourself are doing. If you think someone will look down on you then maybe not have a dick pic or a vagina pic as your main pic??? Just a suggestion, but there is no reason to be ashamed to be on here. Wanting a healthy sex life with another person is good. If you put the view of this is an online whorehouse then that is on you, but you will find quickly that it is not.


luvstockings61 63M
25 posts
7/20/2021 8:13 am

A couple of (non-Swingers Space) friends know I am on here.


Atxfemchub 37M

7/20/2021 9:30 am

My love of bwc's is a secret to everyone in the real world lol


bfc696969 36M

7/21/2021 12:26 am

i like to keep my sexlife private if youre in it youre in it, if not the fuck you until you fuck me


1just4fun61 63M

7/21/2021 6:55 am

What other site are you on?


fflkn4hotbabe 74M  
18 posts
7/21/2021 8:12 am

This site let's you be someone who can speak without someone judging me.


nwga1958 65M
17 posts
7/21/2021 12:30 pm

I have confided with several of my friends that I am on this site. I am very discrete about it but not ashamed of being here.


YesinFl2022 52M

7/21/2021 12:39 pm

Some things can be a secret...


Strongandvirile4 58M  
25 posts
7/21/2021 6:43 pm

Well people who I know on here know I am on it but for work purposes I try to maintain some discretion


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 6:57 pm:
Smart. More people seem more concerned about their jobs than friends knowing.

For_Real2170 57F

7/21/2021 7:03 pm

It’s funny to me that some view being as “pushing the envelope” or taking a risk in some way. There’s an immaturity to so many of the users here and their way of presenting themselves and communicating.

I don’t think it was intended to be a place for men to post their dick pics and feel as though that’s their dirty little secret.

If used correctly, mature adults should be able to see each other’s faces, read thoughtful profiles, and connect accordingly.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/22/2021 6:41 am:
It's interesting point you make about immaturity one finds on here because as many good people I have found on here, there are so many who are very small minded. Hence they way men greet women in a first email to them. Such as ... wanna f#ck? I wrote a whole point about this a few days ago about how social rules fly out the window on here. 50 year old adults are reduced to teenagers, which I guess is typical for a social site.

Can you imagine if people knew how to act their age here??

dwz5234 71M
2394 posts
7/22/2021 5:56 am

I really don't care who knows


tastemeY 57M  
148 posts
7/22/2021 7:43 am

A lot of friends know and a lot don't know. I've even had a co worker come up to me and tell me he and his girlfriend came across my profile. I beleive it's all about good clean, safe, sexual fun.


globugg48 63F
5 posts
7/22/2021 11:37 am

My friends would never understand so why share my little secret. I think its more fun like this.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/22/2021 7:43 pm:
I can completely relate to the friends scenario!

Wifepleaser994 29M
22 posts
7/22/2021 2:49 pm

The only reason I don’t show my face. I can send it privately but not out to everyone.


minnyguy218 43M
6 posts
7/23/2021 4:49 am

My job is fairly public, so discretion is a must for me.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/23/2021 6:20 am:
Understood! This is exactly the point I have made earlier in this post. There is often more at stake than just a marriage or taking a chance and showing ones face.

ShaKeaRxoox 23M
21 posts
7/23/2021 2:38 pm

    Quoting lust4life59:
    I don't shout it from the rooftops, but then again I don't attempt to hide it either.

    But then again, I'm on a site much much more sexually explicit than this one.
which site ?


ShaKeaRxoox 23M
21 posts
7/23/2021 2:41 pm

Of course, my family does not know, but there is no one in my friend group who does not know. 😅


landedinSC 55M
2 posts
7/23/2021 4:56 pm

Nobody I know would have a clue I am here or enjoy bisex every once in a while


DiscreteSlowRide 53M
384 posts
7/23/2021 7:36 pm

    Quoting  :

Agreed!


HornyBoy6969767 47M
72 posts
7/23/2021 9:41 pm

I am on here because I like fine lookin women. Everybody knows that anyways.


DiscreteSlowRide 53M
384 posts
7/24/2021 8:07 pm

    Quoting  :

Some people post comments to stir the pot a bit. Or her tone could have been heavy sarcasm.
Almost everyone else gets it.


APTman 47M
59 posts
7/24/2021 8:18 pm

looking for a more sexually explicit site...


Mainer04401388 44M

7/25/2021 4:22 am

Secret.....shhhh be berry berry quiet.......hahaha hunting beaver


LoneRider440 53M
7 posts
7/25/2021 7:08 am

It's not something that comes up in everyday conversation, so it's nothing to just talk about in a vanilla setting. If and when I find people that are truly interested in the lifestyle and all it has to offer, I let them know.


Dacaterangler26 55M  
16 posts
7/26/2021 6:52 am

never tell anyone its my HAPPY SPACE


oceans269 64T
10 posts
7/27/2021 3:53 am

I like to stay discreet


oralfixation2u 67M
61 posts
7/27/2021 8:42 am

I don't keep it from EVERYONE I know, but most don't have any idea. I've shared my bisexuality with a more than a couple of women I've had sexual relations with, mostly because they wanted to be involved.


BBWjawn 38F

7/27/2021 11:10 am

no one knows im on here lmao


wvuandjmu1963 60M

7/27/2021 3:43 pm

i like to be discreet about it


DiscreteSlowRide 53M
384 posts
7/27/2021 4:38 pm

    Quoting BBWjawn:
    no one knows im on here lmao
Your secret is safe here


DiscreteSlowRide 53M
384 posts
7/27/2021 4:39 pm

I hear that!


JondiceAgain 32M

7/27/2021 8:39 pm

Definitely a secret lol


shelene6443 34F
4 posts
7/28/2021 6:38 am

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ItsThtPervertGuy 44M
484 posts
7/28/2021 10:22 pm

Why does everyone need too know all parts of my life? I agree with the blog creator's comment when one poster said people should man up and stop acting like a Bitch. Who is this person to tell others what they should and should not do. Like Discreet Slow Ride said. most people have Government jobs and are Business owners teacher and so forth. So you mean to tell me a teacher should post their face on a site like this? Even if it is a face pic seeing it on a site like this people minds already goes too that place!

What if your kids friends or a family member sees you here or your parents. That would be awkward .Most people just blurt of comments and do not think. That is why if I always ask for a face pic. The woman could be a relative or something!

I am not hiding nor is it a secret. It is my own personal private time where I chose to indulge in my kinks and freaks and mild fetishes and look for other woman with the same likes.

Anyway Why would I broadcast I am A Kinky Freaky Pervert??


tooshay_turtle 42M
35 posts
7/29/2021 7:50 am

    Quoting ItsThtPervertGuy:
    Why does everyone need too know all parts of my life? I agree with the blog creator's comment when one poster said people should man up and stop acting like a Bitch. Who is this person to tell others what they should and should not do. Like Discreet Slow Ride said. most people have Government jobs and are Business owners teacher and so forth. So you mean to tell me a teacher should post their face on a site like this? Even if it is a face pic seeing it on a site like this people minds already goes too that place!

    What if your kids friends or a family member sees you here or your parents. That would be awkward .Most people just blurt of comments and do not think. That is why if I always ask for a face pic. The woman could be a relative or something!

    I am not hiding nor is it a secret. It is my own personal private time where I chose to indulge in my kinks and freaks and mild fetishes and look for other woman with the same likes.

    Anyway Why would I broadcast I am A Kinky Freaky Pervert??
Although I agree that no one has the right to tell anyone what to do, the rest of your post is totally ignorant. This line of "a site like this" is the problem. So what is this site? Why do you see it as dirty or wrong to be here? I don't and many others don't. There is nothing dirty or wrong in wanting a healthy sex life. Now, if you are doing something you consider wrong or dirty that you have to hide it fine, but don't condemn everyone on the site including myself as we are doing something we should hide from people by being on here. Would it be awkward to find a friend or family member here? Probably a family member, but I have found friends I knew as well as friends I knew found me here. None of them said "omfg shame on you for doing this." Why? Because they are here too!!!! DUH!!!! Maybe you didn't think when you blurted this out, but if they are here they are doing the same thing you are doing unless you are again doing something really that should be hidden. I have yet to go to a restaurant and have someone at that same restaurant condemn me for going there when they are there too. Same for here. Scenario, you ask for a face pic and find out they ARE a friend/family member now what???? Someone asks you for a face pic and finds out you are friend/family member now what???? They are going to ask for a face pic just like you. It happens!! Maybe this place is there personal private time where they choose to indulge in their kinds and freaks and mild fetishes just like you. You don't own the site so you can't tell friends and family members they can't be here just because you are here either. ROFLMAO I am sure they are not broadcasting it any more than you are, but seriously, if you are not doing something illegal or against the law there is no reason to act like being here is or insinuate that others here are doing something shameful either.

I personally don't care who knows I am here. I am here doing something that is healty and makes a person happy.


tooshay_turtle 42M
35 posts
7/29/2021 7:53 am

Before anyone says it, I know I don't have a photo up!!! I didn't put one up because I am not so much actively looking to meet people as I am not here that often. I just peruse the blogs every now and then nowadays. I took the photo down as it wasn't necessary when I am not looking for that. lol My profile reflects it too.


DiscreteSlowRide 53M
384 posts
7/29/2021 9:32 am

    Quoting tooshay_turtle:
    Before anyone says it, I know I don't have a photo up!!! I didn't put one up because I am not so much actively looking to meet people as I am not here that often. I just peruse the blogs every now and then nowadays. I took the photo down as it wasn't necessary when I am not looking for that. lol My profile reflects it too.
You don't have to explain to anyone the reason you do not have a picture posted. It's your call. People can either accept it or not.


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
7/29/2021 11:14 am

It's only the most natural thing humans can do with each other.Hiding would imply that it's something dirty.Not to mention what does hiding say about the very people here that you're looking for?
Most probably don't want to hear,"You're looking for sex on the internet?That's seems a bit dicey,what are you that desperate.You need to get out more often!"

Using more than all the road!


peninsula_ 53M
184 posts
7/29/2021 11:36 am

I kinda don't care that people know but a big lesson in life is this : "don't give people ammunition that they can and will use against you". Believe me when I say this "a hard lesson to learn when your assets are at risk or lost".

You can leave me a message here


DiscreteSlowRide 53M
384 posts
7/29/2021 12:06 pm

    Quoting peninsula_:
    I kinda don't care that people know but a big lesson in life is this : "don't give people ammunition that they can and will use against you". Believe me when I say this "a hard lesson to learn when your assets are at risk or lost".
Excellent point about giving people ammunition or having weight on you.

It sounds like you learned some lessons the hard way, in which case I hope you recovered and that you are in a better place.


Bigfuncock1088 37M

8/6/2021 3:29 pm

I keep it secret.


RideMeSlowly470 53M
125 posts
8/8/2021 1:21 pm

Oh hell no. I would never tell anyone I am on here!


Punkerelli2 44M
20 posts
8/8/2021 7:39 pm

I'm fairly open about my lifestyle to the majority of my friends. But I am discrete about encounters.


ItsThtPervertGuy 44M
484 posts
8/18/2021 9:26 pm

    Quoting tooshay_turtle:
    Although I agree that no one has the right to tell anyone what to do, the rest of your post is totally ignorant. This line of "a site like this" is the problem. So what is this site? Why do you see it as dirty or wrong to be here? I don't and many others don't. There is nothing dirty or wrong in wanting a healthy sex life. Now, if you are doing something you consider wrong or dirty that you have to hide it fine, but don't condemn everyone on the site including myself as we are doing something we should hide from people by being on here. Would it be awkward to find a friend or family member here? Probably a family member, but I have found friends I knew as well as friends I knew found me here. None of them said "omfg shame on you for doing this." Why? Because they are here too!!!! DUH!!!! Maybe you didn't think when you blurted this out, but if they are here they are doing the same thing you are doing unless you are again doing something really that should be hidden. I have yet to go to a restaurant and have someone at that same restaurant condemn me for going there when they are there too. Same for here. Scenario, you ask for a face pic and find out they ARE a friend/family member now what???? Someone asks you for a face pic and finds out you are friend/family member now what???? They are going to ask for a face pic just like you. It happens!! Maybe this place is there personal private time where they choose to indulge in their kinds and freaks and mild fetishes just like you. You don't own the site so you can't tell friends and family members they can't be here just because you are here either. ROFLMAO I am sure they are not broadcasting it any more than you are, but seriously, if you are not doing something illegal or against the law there is no reason to act like being here is or insinuate that others here are doing something shameful either.

    I personally don't care who knows I am here. I am here doing something that is healty and makes a person happy.
OBVIOUSLY you did not totally understand what I was saying and maybe did not even READ my comment completely or just scanned it and replied! You asked a General Question and I May a comment in the same manner. Where or how does my comment become ignorant as you say? But lets go with that word ignorant

#1. I Know I do not own the site and NEVER acting as if I did so you sentence that reads'( You don't own the site so you can't tell friends and family members they can't be here just because you are here either.' Where did you get the idea of me telling people period they can come here or not? That is no where in my post and to insinuate is IGNORANT.

#2. To try and compare being on this site to being in a restaurant and being seen by family or friends is TOTALLY non-comparable and made no sense to do so and is completely IGNORANT!

3# How is the line "a site like this"totally the problem? This site is a sex site!! A site for many things. Some people use it as a regular dating site some for fantasies and others fetishes and others allot more than may be a bit to allot embarrassing. Some people maybe into piss some scat. And you Really thing they want ANYONE to know that! And I can see you are confused. A healthy sex like is not the main reason people are on here as you can see there are many like categories nor does one have to come on a site like this too have a healthy sex life so those two do not connect and is IGNORANT!

#3. How would you know if friends or family are on here doing the same as me. And whats makes you think I want to know?? DUH!! Did you think of that?? And WHERE is it you figure that I am condemning Everyone on this site for being on here when I AM ON HERE MYSELF. Are you SERIOUS!! You are making NO SENSE in your reply! And if I see a pic of a family member I decline that is what stop the chat!! What do you think what?? That was a dumb question!

#4. I said and you quoted "Maybe this place is there personal private time where they choose to indulge in their kinds and freaks and mild fetishes just like you'

The key word is PRIVATE!! Why would I want people know what I do in my PRIVATE LIFE!! No me personally I am not doing anything illegal or gross or anything in that category but I did do not need ANYONE to know what site I am on.THIS SITE or any other cause that is my PRIVATE LIFE.

Now as for friends I could have left that out as I have referred friends to this site so a few do know I am here but it is just gross and disgusting too let your family into your sex life. So a man wants his sister's or brothers or parents to know he is bi if they do not know. He wants a all male gangbang! A woman wants her family to know she is into gang bangs or bi or is into BDSM! What about co-workers I guess its okay for them to know to right? I guess the whole office should know about a persons sex life and fetishes right? Never mind that might be embarrassing or even cost them their job.

Your whole reply made NOS SENSE and before you start to throw around the word ignorant you REALLY should make sure you are that smart to do so!


Freefallend 72M
29 posts
8/23/2021 7:49 am

I like to keep this a completely private and separate part of my life.


RideMyRod2021 37M

8/27/2021 3:22 pm

Very much a secret


grayham56 58M

9/16/2021 12:32 am

If I am asked I wouldn't hide the fact in am a member, but I prefer a little discretion


Don_Nuevo 30M
31 posts
9/16/2021 12:29 pm

My business


Freefallend 72M
29 posts
1/4/2022 11:31 am

I dont want others to know. However, I wouldnt want them to know I am on Facebook dating either


Freefallend 72M
29 posts
1/4/2022 11:34 am

Ever had a security clearance? You will lose it if you are identified here. Is that right? No. Is it a fact? Yes


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